Worry Worry Worry by Sue Ford (hypnotherapy/NLP)

Hi
Well here we are week 3 of my blog and it hasn't been too onerous, in fact if I am honest I've quite enjoyed it - I might even consider continuing after Christmas!
Today's blog is about worries.

Jerry lived in a little flat on his own he was a very anxious person he worried about everything. Someone told him to write a worry down and that would make it disappear - well that was a load of rubbish he now dragged around a carrier bag that was full of bits of paper each with a worry written on! And not one had gone away he knew because he checked every day. As each day passed the bag became heavier and heavier and he became more and more anxious. Friends suggested he read all of the bits of paper and decided which ones to keep, which were important and which we're out of date and could be thrown because they were obsolete. He thought this was a great idea he laboriously went through the carrier bag again piece by piece and managed to get rid of the princely amount of nine and a half (the half one was because the problem was out of date but he knew it would come back at the same time next year, so it was just a worry on the back burner!)

None of this was helping, he was making himself ill. He had to do something but he didn't know what. One day when he was sitting on a park bench now with 2 carrier bags bursting at the seams resting on the floor by his feet. A large dog ran past and the bags went flying, each one of Jerry's worries took flight. The dog leapt into the air trying to catch the pieces of paper, Jerry leapt into the air trying to catch the pieces of paper, the old lady with her shopping trolley jumped into the air trying to catch the pieces of paper but to no avail. Some pieces of paper had got stuck in the trees some were floating on the pond,others were fluttering down as if it was a paper snow storm. All Jerry's worries were out there in the world out of his control and guess what nothing had happened no major disasters no catastrophes not even one minor disruption. Jerry began to laugh, the large dog barked happily and the old lady with the shopping trolley carried on about her business with a gentle smile on her face. Is this one of those happy ever after fairy tales? No, because Jerry will surely have new worries tomorrow but it is a story of possibility for change and finding coping strategies. Sometimes it's simply worth trying something different.

Do you feel snowed under with anxieties or overwhelmed with worries, why not see if hypnotherapy or NLP can help?

See you next week
Sue

To have a free 15 minute chat with Sue to see if hypnotherapy or NLP may be able to help you, contact us at info@finefettle.org or phone us on 01372 458984

A post from a happy Fine Fettle customer......

Kevin Betts is a charity runner and a patient of Helen Bullen - Owner of Fine Fettle.  

Kev ran 52 marathons in memory of his Dad, Dick, who took his own life in 2003. He decided he wanted to make the most of the situation and use his experiences to demonstrate that out of adversity can come great strength and fortitude. Kev now dedicates a lot of time to talking to people about his challenge, about sport and about the importance of motivation, goal setting and positive mental health. Anecdotes are his thing – from being banned from Macdonalds in Shoreham for overuse of the lavatory facilities, to being caught putting Vaseline between his bum cheeks in a reputable gym, he has a way of getting tough things to make you smile. 

This is what Kevin had to say about Helen today in his count down of people who inspire him.  Helen made number 20!

People who inspire me: Day 20:Person 20

Posted on November 8, 2012 by Kevin Betts (Patient at Fine Fettle)

I’ve had an exhausting day where I’ve read a book about WordPress (thankfully, I  am now able to press a word), met some students and met a very like minded person who has an amazing outlook on life. More on her another time, I’m sure.

So on to today’s person. There are obviously people reading this thing, because I’ve had a fair few “I’d better be on there one day” remarks. Maybe, maybe not! Today, it’s someone who has never asked to be on here, and who would never expect to be on here, let alone want to be! It’s a lovely lady called Helen Bullen, who works 25 hours a day on her passion – Fine Fettle Multi Healthcare.

Helen is an Osteopath whose business offers everything from hypnotherapy to sports massage. She first got in touch with me right at the start of the 52 marathon challenge and simply said that if there’s any way she can help, she will. And she did! Advice, guidance, information, treatment, encouragement, laughs, pep talks – the lot! And never has she asked for a penny or an ounce of recognition.

Helen is the type of person who will offer you the world because she truly believes in what she is doing and the things her business has to offer. They’ve recently won a national award and I really believe that’s completely down to their open, honest and personal approach to what they do. There is no salesmanship, they are people who offer you everything you need and not a bit more. They don’t rip you off – they’re way too good for that.

Helen is as nice a person as you could meet. She exudes enthusiasm and appears to be a fantastic boss (I say appears to be, as I’ve never worked for her. Potentially, she might be a psychopath who locks her employees away. Although I doubt it.). She gives up her time for free, as well as her facilities, staff and equipment. You will find her on any given weekend out somewhere offering FREE treatments to people taking part in events for charity. If they are given money, it all goes to charity. She gives back over and over again. And people know that, and as a marketing tool it must pay dividends. Good on them!

When I first met Helen, she was ‘just an osteopath’. But having learned more about her, it turns out she’s one of the very best. She’s also something like an ex international volleyball player. Helen often flies to Dublin because she has a fancy job there. She’s something like the academic vice chancellor for magical osteopath skills. She takes an active role in teaching others her skills and as role models go, you couldn’t get better. If you ever have the pleasure of meeting her, try not to be infected by her enthusiasm – I dare you. It’s impossible – she’s more infectious than bird flu and you’ll leave a treatment from her with the desire to go and run a marathon there and then.

Helen inspires me to see the best in people, to give things back for free and to be enthusiastic about what I do. She’s made me want to do something that I truly love and to reap the rewards as a by-product of effort and giving, rather than as a direct goal. It’s because of Helen getting involved that I managed to complete my challenge and it’s because of Helen that I was able to keep running and say I. Won’t. Stop

Thanks Kevin for writing this.  You are right I do love what I do but your achievements far outweigh what little I did to support you on your challenge.  An amazing man - inspiring so many!! Helen Bullen 

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Sue's second blog - To write or not to write? ......PROCRASTINATION

It was being heard across the nation
Peter suffered from procrastination
First he had a dither then he had a pause
Before he knew what hit him he'd broken all the laws

About time being precious
What a crime it was to waste
he had to search his subconscious
He had to amend this with haste

Should he go left or should he go right
Maybe put off the decision till Saturday night
He scoured the horizon with his 20:20 vision
No wonder people looked at him with derision

Two steps forward three steps back
Should he wear a jumper or a plastic mac?
Was it best to walk or fly a plane
Better still maybe take the train

This was getting him nowhere
A case this serious was so rare
If he didn't move every so often
They'd carry him off in a bamboo coffin

Four steps forward then three in reverse
This hesitation was a curse
Gloria his friend made a suggestion
To get rid of his procrastination

Why don't you see a hypnotherapist
They could deal with this delaying terrorist
What you need is motivation
But where to start is relaxation

Although this poem is a light hearted look at procrastination for some people it is really serious and has a huge negative effect on their life. I believe hypnotherapy can help because as it says in the poem 'the place to start is relaxation' and hypnotherapy is able to help people relax and reassess what they are doing and why they are doing it. Sometimes the reasons can be quite surprising.
See you next week
Sue

To book a free 15 minute chat with Sue contact her on:
01372 458984
sueford@mail.com or info@finefettle.org

Sue's FIRST BLOG!!!

My name is Sue and I am one of the hypnotherapists at Fine Fettle. Anyone who has met me knows how passionate I am about what I do, I wax lyrical about hypnosis and nlp  to anyone who stands still long enough to listen (I hasten to add I do stop if I see their eyes begin to glaze over - well mostly!)
When I see clients I talk a lot about three things in particular:-
1. Choices
2. Changes
3. Challenges

The other day I was thinking how much do I use these three things in my life - probably not as much as might be useful! So I have decided to bite the bullet and incorporate them more. Therefore I have set myself a challenge of writing a blog once a week until the end of the year.
I have always wanted to have a go at blogging but you know what it's like...... All the questions start flooding in:-
What shall I write about?
Will people be interested in what I have to say?
Have I got time?
And many more.....
However you can put loads of hurdles in front of something you want to do and put it off and delay it and think about it and discuss it.
The light bulb moment came when I realised 'you don't know unless you try!' Obvious really, but sometimes it's hard to see what 's under your nose.
So..... This is my FIRST BLOG...
I hope you enjoy reading them and I would love any comments back if you feel inclined.
My SECOND BLOG is going to be about the very thing I mentioned here, putting things off, in other words PROCRASTINATION.
See you next week
Sue

Hypnotherapist at Fine Fettle Multi-healthcare

2nd Place....How to appreciate your achievements!!

Last weekend was a tense weekend for Fine Fettle MHC and for myself and my Practice Manager Debbie as we fought for two places in the top 3 in the UK and in Guernsey.

Fine Fettle Multi-healthcare, as you can read in my last blog, were amazingly short listed to the final three in the CAM UK clinic of the year competition.  The awards took place last Sunday.  Meanwhile myself and Debbie Frost (my Practice Manager, former team mate and England International) were away in Guernsey playing in the Guernsey Volleyball Open.

For those that don't know myself or Debbie I need to explain that we both used to play top level volleyball in the UK playing Division 1 (top division)  for Ashcombe, Dorking for many years.  Debbie is also an ex England player who has many caps and is listed in the volleyball hall of fame for her contribution to England Volleyball.  What I do have to add is that we are both now retired from top level volleyball, in fact neither of us have played properly for years.

Well we travelled out to Guernsey to meet out former team mates for a fun tournament with no pressure on winning games as only three out of the 9 of our team had played in the last year.  Well despite all the odds and after a shaky start we actually found out that we still have some of what it takes and by the semi finals we blew the opposition away.  The finals loomed but despite a great performance, considering our lack of any match play, we lost but it was a well fought game and we were ecstatic  to have got so far.  A money prize and trophies were gratefully received.

Meanwhile, Eddie my partner had travelled to Earls Court for the presentation of  the clinic awards and again we just lost in the final.  I have to admit I was gutted to come a runner up but as this week has passed I have realised what an achievement it was to be runner up in the UK clinic awards.  An amazing achievement as we have only been open 2 1/2 years. To be the 2nd best clinic in the country really isn't that bad!!

So coming second twice was actually amazing and I need to appreciate what we have done.  Initially, being so competitive I was down that we had not won either but after some reflection and hearing the congratulations from our patients and friends I have realised that 2nd isn't that bad..............

If you have not visited us yet at Fine Fettle then do pop in to see us.  We are a friendly bunch and love meeting new people and telling them what we do. We also have our trophy and certificate up in reception!!

Regards

Chief runner up.......Helen Bullen - Fine Fettle Multi-healthcare!!!

FINE FETTLE SHORT LISTED FOR PRESTIGIOUS HEALTHCARE AWARDa

Wow, Wow, Wow...................

Way back in early September I (Helen Bullen) decided to enter Fine Fettle in the CAM (Complementary Natural and Integrated Healthcare) Clinic Awards. Anyone who knows me will know that I live and breath Fine Fettle and we so strive to be the best clinic there is.

I actually didn't tell anyone at Fine Fettle I had entered us, as being such a large competition and nationwide I  wasn't sure we would be recognised.  I duly sent off all our details within the set number of words and secretly crossed my fingers...Well today it all paid off.  Early today we got a call, much to the surprise of reception, from the CAM expo organisers to ask us to attend their awards ceremony on Sunday 21st of October 2012 as we had been short listed to the final three for the

THE FINAL THREE - this is an incredible achievement for us and we will be proud what ever the outcome.  The award is to be judged by a group of industry professionals and will be presented at camexpo, the industry's most presitgious event, which takes place at Earls Court on Sunday 21st of October.

I will add, however that so far Fine Fettle has come runner up in the Leatherhead Chamber of Commerce Business of the year awards 2010 and I was runner up in Business Personality awards 2010 and we came 3rd in the Leatherhead Chamber Customer Care awards in 2011.  SO PLEASE - COULD WE JUST WIN ONE!!!  This one also has a £500 reward for coming first!!

The next problem is the awards are this Sunday. Well after 4 years of not playing volleyball very much it is just this weekend that I happen to be playing in the Guernsey Volleyball Open  with all my old team mates.  We won this tournament for about 10 years in a row and although we are all ageing I  think a double win on Sunday would be fantastic!!  (I can hear my mates laughing now...I probably wont be walking on Sunday let alone getting to the final!!)  Just as an aside the Guernsey Open final is always worth getting into.  I have had many years of being on Guernsey TV coming out of a smoke filled corridor to strobbing lights on court to be presented to the crowd!!  Those were the days!!  Can the old girl make a come back!!???

So what to do about Sunday????  Well luckily I have some fantastic therapists at Fine Fettle and 3 of them hope to get up to Earls Court for the awards.  Team Fine Fettle are a fantastic group of therapist who all put in 100% into the clinic.  They are the people that make Fine Fettle the fantastic multi-healthcare centre and I truly THANK them all for working with me and for providing such excellent care for all our clients.

Will blog again soon with the result but we are already ecstatic that we are short listed to the final 3 from so many other clinics nationwide.  WELL DONE TO THE FETTLER TEAM!!

Helen
Owner and Senior Osteopath
BSc (Hons) Ost Med, MSMA

www.finefettle.org

RIDE ACROSS BRITAIN - JONATHAN ELLSMORE'S (SPORTS THERAPIST) ACCOUNT

A FANTASTIC ACHIEVEMENT FOR FINE FETTLE'S OWN SPORTS THERAPIST - JONATHAN ELLSMORE

In late March I signed up to cycle from Lands End to John O'Groats as part of the Deloitte Ride Across Britain event.
My good friend Nicola, was undergoing treatment for a rare head tumour at the Royal Marsden at the time, and to try and allay any feelings of being utterly useless, decided that raising money for the Royal Marsden was the only thing I could do.

I am a keen cyclist but the Ride Across Britain event was quite an undertaking - over 960 miles in 9 days. I was one of over 600 who took part, cycling through some of Britain's best scenery. From the sunlit, saw-tooth profiles of Cornwall and Devon, flat(ish) but wet stages through Shropshire and the north west, to the windswept peaks of the Lake district and the epic grandeur of the Scottish Highlands.

A knee injury on day 1 made the first 3 stages rather testing, but crashing at 20mph on day 5 made the rest of the trip even more of a challenge. (a note to all cyclists, always wear a helmet. My helmet did it's job, it cracked, my head didn't!) Getting up at 5.30 from a cold, wet tent, with gravel rash on my knee, hip, shoulder and hands wasn't fun. But that, and cycling 100+ miles in a day was an easy thing to do when compared with the operations and treatments that my friend and thousands of others go through. That thought spurred me on and kept my pedals turning until the finish line at John O'Groats.

Riding from Lands End to John O'Groats was a brilliant challenge - the British weather played it's part - we had sun, rain, sleet, some tailwinds, some headwinds, and hills are hills. The sense of achievement at completing it is, in itself, great but knowing that I was raising money for a fantastic cause made it even better. My friend Nicola was given the all-clear in August, others who find themselves at the Royal Marsden might not be so lucky. If you would like to donate money to the Royal Marsden to help them continue to do such brilliant work please visit my fundraising page...

http://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/jonathanellsmore

  
Jonathan Ellsmore 
Sports Therapist/rehab specialist/personal trainer and cycling enthusiast from FINE FETTLE.

If you would like to book an appointment for treatment with Jonathan please call 01372 458984 or email info@finefettle.org.

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